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Caution: Tough Times Ahead

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I saw this sign today, while I was out on a walk:

Caution, steep hill ahead sign, chains required, monitor LADD1

Wouldn’t it be nice if life were like that? The sign could say something like CAUTION: TOUGH TIMES AHEAD. COPING TOOLS REQUIRED. MONITOR INTUITION.” But then again, maybe it’s better that we don’t know that things are going to be tough, that the marriage we just celebrated would be the hardest thing to endure, or that our child might get sick and die. Yes, I definitely think it’s better that we don’t know.

On the other hand, perhaps we would still be wise to prepare for hard times. What if we took a little better care of ourselves so that we are stronger people? What if we developed some tools for coping with stress, or ways to deal with frustration and anger?* We would certainly do well to learn how to listen to our intuition so that we can hear its guidance and benefit from its bird’s-eye-view of our lives.

Just some things to think about as we continue on this journey that is life — this road with its blind corners, black ice, and steep hills. Chains might be required for trucks, but for us, freedom is the key! What can I do to be more free? Personally, I still have a ways to go to care less what other people think… to be ruled by the compass, not the clock (as Steven Covey says, to follow your own True North)… to live more fully in the moment and want to be more free…

steep hill sign2
And for anyone who’s curious, the sign is near Wrigley, NWT, where the winter road (ice road) heads north!

*I have a whole chapter in my book Love Your Skeletons on what to do about anger. 🙂

Truth and Freedom

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I was happily reading along, learning about healing and thinking and other great stuff I won’t go into here, when a Bible verse I read struck me differently today. I’ve heard it before, and you probably have too… but today, it had more meaning.

You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. – Jesus of Nazareth

Truth. What is truth? This is a tough question. We tend to know what is untrue, but it’s hard to peg down exactly what capital-T Truth is.

Well, according to Jesus — who, I hope you can agree, even if you don’t believe he came to save you or any of that, was an amazing wise man and teacher — truth is what makes you free. Truth = Freedom. So… if you don’t feel free, then something isn’t true. Something you are thinking or something you believe is not contributing to a feeling of personal freedom. It’s probably at the heart of the unhappiness or feeling of restriction. And so, logic would say, that something you are believing or thinking is not true. You can keep believing it if you want, but you won’t experience maximum freedom until you find your own personal truth.

That’s all I can say. It doesn’t seem to be anything more complicated than that.

It’s late, I need to get to bed. Sorry I haven’t blogged more, but I’ve been really busy. That’s it!

Wedding & Honeymoon

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Let me share some pictures of the wedding and honeymoon! It was a great time… feels like longer, but it was only 3 weeks ago! Hard to believe!

Reverend Patrick starting the ceremony
Reverend Patrick starting the ceremony
Part way through the ceremony. I am putting the ring on Darren's finger. All of a sudden, multi-tasking (talking and putting the ring on) became so hard!!
Here I am, putting the ring on Darren's finger. All of a sudden, multi-tasking (talking and putting the ring on) became so hard to do!
The kiss! Woo hoo!
The kiss! Woo hoo!
Weary travelers that we were, we made it to Jamaica!
Weary travelers that we were, we made it to Jamaica!
Our perfect honeymoon cabin (at Royal DeCameron Resort, Runaway Bay, Jamaica)
Our perfect honeymoon cabin (at Royal DeCameron Club Caribbean Resort, Runaway Bay, Jamaica)
One beautiful evening
One beautiful evening
Sunset over the resort. This picture was taken from the Jetty Bar, which was built over the rocks/water.
Sunset over the resort. This picture was taken from the Jetty Bar, which was built over the rocks/water.
One of the beaches. There were 4 "coves" that made up the beaches. Very nice!
One of the beaches. The beaches were in 4 "coves." Very nice!
Need I say more?
Need I say more?

So I’ve been thinking 2 things lately: Things usually happen gradually — everything from changes in the world, to the weather, to what kind of person I am becoming. So who am I becoming? Am I gradually becoming more loving, more kind, more understanding? Or am I becoming more judgmental, snappy or sarcastic? I do get snappy when I am hungry, but that is usually preventable, if I only make sure to take care of myself. In fact, if I take care of myself emotionally and spiritually, I am far less likely to be judgmental or sarcastic, too.

As for world changes, the “financial crisis” is pretty hot in the news (even though I never watch it). Well, it seems to me that when you play with pretend money too much, you are going to get in trouble. (“Pretend money” is loaned money, stocks and such.) In Jamaica, the majority of people live in small/half-finished houses, because the lending rate is so high, no one can afford a mortgage. So they save real money, and build on as they can (it is similar in Mazatlan, Mexico, where I visited in February). So although it may not be their dream house until they are old, it is all theirs, bought and paid for every step of the way.

The second thing I’ve been pondering — remembering from a class I took — is that when some new idea comes along, test it by saying “if that were true for me, would I be more free?” For example, if I hear that the real estate market is going downhill, I can think “if that is true for me, would I be more free?” The answer: nope! I might start to worry or mope, which is not adding to my freedom.  So, I don’t focus on it, and in that way, it’s not true for me. I don’t think it is true, so it has no power over me then. Make sense?

The same phrase can be applied to a new thought like “so-and-so is a hag.” Does that make me more free?  Nope! Because then I want to avoid that person (which is hard work in a small town!) or I have to work at biting my tongue… definitely not more free! So I can choose to have a new thought, one that is more understanding or less judgmental.

Anyways, that’ll give you something to think about! Have a great day!