The Best Way to Help Someone

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In the past two months, a couple of friends of mine have been going through some serious sh*t. Now, I have helped people before, but that was before I really learned about the science of mind and the law of attraction. I used to be a Victim Advocate, working at the local Victim Support Unit, and I helped all kinds of people there. But I think I have finally figured out the best way to help someone, so I thought I’d share it with all of you.

We are all called on to help our family and friends at times. Sometimes, it is during times of great stress, like a sudden illness or pain so severe an ambulance must be called. Sometimes, it is helping after the loss of a loved one, or it could be after a medical diagnosis or job/financial stress. Whatever it is, the #1 best thing you can do is hold the high watch.

What does it mean to “hold the high watch?” It means that as you help, you hold in your mind, as clearly as possible, an image of the person you are helping at their absolute best. Whenever you have a spare minute, you conjure up in your imagination or recall a time when that person was lively, fun, full of life, perfectly healthy and joyful. It is best to make that a really long list — go on and on in your mind about how amazing that person is, and get really specific about everything you appreciate about him or her.

For one friend of mine, I kept the image of how energetic, full of energy and life, adventure-loving, carefree, perky, outgoing, entrepreneurial and talkative she is. For another friend, I focused on how healthy, vibrant, smart, and energetic she is. If you can really engage your imagination and sort of do a rant of awesomeness (or as Abraham-Hicks would say “milk it”), then you are really helping someone. Whatever actions you do will be amplified and perfectly guided. If you take no action at all other than imagine the amazingness of that person, you have helped immensely.

So you see, you can run yourself ragged trying to help your friend, but if you see her as needing your help — which she doesn’t — or see her as broken or flawed, then you are not helping to mend her. She doesn’t need mending, she just needs a little support. In reality, she is perfect, pure and wonderful light, but if you get caught up in her illness or problem, you can’t really help much. Your belief in the problem only adds to it. But if you don’t even lift a finger to help (although it is great to help with practical things when you can), and instead you spend some significant time, focus and energy on that person’s wellness and awesomeness — simply imagining her at her fantastic best — then you are helping the most.

Whatever you do, don’t fall into the trap of having a pity party for someone. Pity is the least helpful emotion or attitude you can give them. You can be sympathetic without looking on them with pity. You can choose to think that your friend is strong, smart, tough, clever, etc enough and they will get through this. We each have within us the ability to get through anything that comes our way.

Most of all, know that they don’t really need your help. They need you to know for them when they have forgotten that everything is going to turn out perfectly, they are getting everything they need and it’s all good.

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    Attitude is Everything! | Adventures with Teresa said:
    March 3, 2014 at 2:55 am

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